Your Fear of Judgment Is a Crime Against Yourself

The fear of being judged is like a loyal companion who needs to eff off.

It makes you doubt your self-worth, hide your true self, and encourages you to post selfies from your invisible cage.

(Your slogan T-shirt is not fooling anyone.)

But what is a fear of judgment really?

My take: It’s your refusal to stand up for yourself. 

Like really stand up for yourself. Whole and soul.

There are parts of you that you’re not owning. And to me that seems like a betrayal of the self.

Dissect your fear of judgment

• Are you ashamed of yourself?
• Are you not proud of how you think? 
• Are you not happy with the skills you have? 
• Are you ashamed of your dreams?
• Are you ashamed of your journey?
• Are you ashamed of your background?
• What about you do you not like? 

What about those little things that define you?

• Your temperament
• your likes and dislikes,
• the books you read,
• the movies you watch,
• the music you listen to,
• the paintings you paint,
• and the drawings you draw. 

What about your relationships?

What about the times you’ve been a good friend, an empathetic spouse, or a helpful parent – listening to and offering support to those who needed you? 

What about the times when you were unable to sleep sick with worry over something wrong you may have done?

What about the time you did a complete stranger a turn of kindness?

What about all your numerous efforts you make to improve yourself, to better something or the other?

What about those prayers and wishes and aspirations?

ALL of the above is you

When you are scared to put yourself out there, it’s because at some level you don’t think you’re worthy of being seen.

All of those parts that make you, instead of embracing them and standing up for them, you’re feeling small because of something you have judged inadequate.

When you’re scared of being judged, you do yourself a huge disservice. 

Every cell and fibre in your being wilts. 

It shrinks in shame. It doesn’t want to be seen. 

When you’re scared of being judged, you do yourself a huge disservice. Every cell and fibre in your being wilts. It shrinks in shame. It doesn’t want to be seen. 

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But why?

Look at the list above and try to understand.

What about you is scaring you?

You’re a wonderful mash of so many attributes, moments, and experiences. A riveting work in progress! 

You deserve to be seen and heard as you are

Not just when you feel “sorted”.

You don’t need to spout perfectly sensible stuff every time you open your mouth. You’re a human, not ChatGPT whose sole purpose is to return satisfactory answers. 

And even then AI gets it wrong. All the time. 

Stop with:

• the fear of being judged
• of playing small
• of wilting and shrinking
• of being dishonest

Stand up for yourself like you would for a little child.